From: Jeffrey Epstein <jeevacationggmail.com>
To:
Subject: Re: Jewish Mom 101
Date: Tue, 08 Feb 2011 11:11:26 +0000
this one is easy.. give her the gift that she wants.. add to it.. yes add to it.. it will evetually be yours anyway. do
not go cheapo on her at hr age... many problems after
On Mon, Feb 7, 2011 at 8:39 PM, < > wrote:
Dilemma:
Steve says to me "don't get her a present, she is ungrateful and she will turn it into a mind game."
After some discussion, we decide that we will take her and a handful of her closest friends/family to Las
Vegas to celebrate (her choice of location), all expenses for everyone. GIFT #1.
Then, because Steve's father is not alive and there is no one else to celebrate her birthday or get her gifts, we
decide to get her a gift that would be celebratory of this "monument" year (70).
I spent a lot of time looking and finally decided on a Chanel watch. One that was first designed in the year of
her birth. And I made sure it had 70 diamonds. All around, what I believed to be a thoughtful and appropriate
gift.
Steve liked it because it was classy, and he thought that she would like it because of the diamonds. He
suggested we engrave it so that she couldn't return it, but in a million years I never thought she would return
it.
So on one of the Vegas nights at dinner, I gave her the watch. She acted very excited and proud and grateful.
The next day she had her friend ask me for the receipt. Steve and I were both heartbroken but Steve
cautioned me that this was part of a bigger game that I could not win.
And so it begins.
She returned the custom watch, we get a (not full) refund. Chanel contacts me, concerned.
A few days later I get the returned watch receipts with a note that says "here's the receipt" Steve takes that
to mean that she expects the full value of the gift as another gift (like a debit card) — and that she feels
entitled to the value of the gift and not the gift.
She emails me and says that she is returning the watch because she can't see the numbers but that she wants
a Hermes one instead (same size numbers by the way) and that I need to call Hermes and give them my credit
card number.
Steve advised me not to reply but instead to ask your advice on "Varsity Jewish Mom Management".
But then, this morning, I got another note from her saying (and I am cutting/pasting from email):
Good news, I found a birthday gift for me. Those skinny diamond bangle bracelets, worn in multiples, saw them at the
jewelry show this weekend, want to check them out in NY, first. 1can get 4 for the price of the watch
EFTA00903761
So the question is:
1. Get the bracelets for her and extend the full value of the original gift and call it a day
2. Get her the bracelets but let her know that this will be the last substantial gift (or effort)
3. Do not get her the bracelet and let her know that her behavior made us rethink the gift
4. Ignore her
It is true that I am not equipped to win a mind game with a Jewish mother. She does this to me quite
frequently, and it is taking a toll on Steve. We are at a point where we just don't want to talk to her or see her
since it always comes with a price. She sends me gifts with receipts (for repayment). We had to buy her
house, pay off all her debt, and now she's basically on allowance since she blows through every dollar we give
her. We tried to put a financial planner in between, but her behavior seems to be escalating.
So you have advice on the specific question (#1-4 above) or general advice on how to manage her and her
expectations?
Sorry to be so long but felt like the color was necessary...Steve is copied on this mail in case he has more to
add.
The information contained in this communication is
confidential, may be attorney-client privileged, may
constitute inside information, and is intended only for
the use of the addressee. It is the property of
Jeffrey Epstein
Unauthorized use, disclosure or copying of this
communication or any part thereof is strictly prohibited
and may be unlawful. If you have received this
communication in error, please notify us immediately by
return e-mail or by e-mail to jeevacation@gmail.com, and
destroy this communication and all copies thereof,
including all attachments. copyright -all rights reserved
EFTA00903762